A while back, I came across This post on Precious’s blog written by her husband on being called “old fashioned”because he wanted to bring up his children to take responsibility, know the consequences of disobedience, avoid laziness and respect their elders.
And that word ” old fashioned” struck me because I have been called names before. I am sure some of us know the kind of names I am talking about ; Names meant to mock and disparage whatever point you are trying to make or your lifestyle ; Names that make you feel like an outsider rather than an insider .
I have had an ex ask me if I was Virgin Mary when I refused his offer to hook up years after we hooked “apart” lol.
I remember that a fellow lawyer, an older man who is very much married, told me that I was not current or I was old fashioned( I have forgotten the exact phrase) just because I politely kept putting him in his place every time he tried to suggest that he wanted to take me out, or ask when I was free for lunch etc. I knew he wanted to have an affair with me, and that so wasn’t gonna happen.
His demeanor and comments towards me therefore ranged from angry to kind to pissed to irritated.
Plus I am not a make up or jewellery person so you best believe I have heard a lot of funny stuff because of my choices.
I have noticed that we Christians are sometimes so afraid of being called old fashioned that we eschew our biblical principles just to be called hip and current. Just to prove that we are modern.
And the question is why we do we have to conform to the world instead of been transformed as the Bible counsels?
Why do we have to apologize and be called names because we are not toeing the way of the world?
Why do I have to feel bad for not sleeping around, for abstaining from sex, or not dressing seductively.
Why does Mr N( Precious’s husband) have to apologize for wanting to bring up his kids in a godly manner and not in the way of the world?
The world is never going to come around to the Christian way of values: Celibacy, abstinence, dressing modestly, tithing, forgiving and turning the other cheek etc. Basically obeying God is NEVER going to be the popular choice.
We should therefore not be afraid to stand out from the crowd, to think differently, to hold steadfastly to our values irrespective of the derogatory taunts of the majority.
The world WILL not understand your need to keep your body till marriage or abstain from drinking and smoking ; Nor the need to please and obey God the father or the fact you don’t need to be naked and expose your body to attract the opposite sex?
How can they comprehend the sanctity of marriage vows?
The mystery of biblical giving and tithing ? Or that you don’t need to steal and lie before you make it in life?
This is why no Christian should mind being called old fashioned.
If being called old fashioned means adhering to what my father (God) wants. I don’t mind.
Call me whatever you like. What matters is not what man calls me but what heaven is calling me.
If my father in heaven is happy with me then I don’t give a hoot. ( Ok! it may pain me small after all I am only human) but I eventually focus on what’s important. And you should too.
P. S Old fashioned in this context means godly biblical values oh. Not in terms of dressing like we are still in 1900, tradition or thinking like a cave man lol ( but if that’s your thing good for you abeg).
P.S.S This post was first published last year on my other blog and I have edited it briefly 😌 ( I think I will post a few more). It is such an apt post and even though I wrote it, it still resonates with me even now. Let me know what you think.