My people! I was in Church yesterday and it was marriage talk day. You see, every third Sunday is Marriage talk day in my Church and people get to ask all sorts of questions and inevitably sex almost always comes up. Of course I mean sex in the context of marriage ?.
A lot of this questions are asked anonymously but at least people are voicing out.
I have come to realize that a lot of Churches over spiritualize sex and so a lot of harm is done to Christian psyche and their homes where sex is thought of as filthy or dirty.
Ironically you would be surprised at the number of complaints and questions that married Christians have that center on sex. This shows how necessary education and openness is.
I attend a conservative Church. So it was interesting to hear words and answers talking on oral sex, breasts, caress, rubbing, pornography , frigid, vaginismus, masturbation, low and high sex urges being discussed.
Funny enough I think some of those people listening would go and wash their ears with soap if they could lol. As for me I was trying hard not to smile. Don’t judge me but when words like the above keep flying around during Sunday Morning service, in a full Church with loudspeakers it was hard. I had to watch my laughter before some people start giving me side eye like “Hmmmm!See the way Bisola shined teeth when they started talking about some stuff”.
And therein lies the problem with sex and the Church. The pretense and hypocrisy is just crazy. At a point the interpreter was trying to be tame with interpreting the words of the pastor and the pastor remarked :
It’s like this my interpreter is too spiritual.
Lol. The pastor backtracked at this point and I don’t blame the poor man. Next thing you know some holier than thou people would go and report him to the General overseer and say he is corrupting the Church. SMH. He said as much that he wouldn’t go as far as he wanted because of hypocrites who would quite him out of context and who think shaking a woman is a sin yet their hearts were dirty with sin.
Thank God for a doctor who stepped up and went all the way when explaining . He was like “me I be layman, I no be pastor” lol. ? But at a point when things got a bit explicit he ensured that he got pastors permission to proceed.
On my part, I think the Church needs to talk about sex. I am happy the G. O of my Church got the leading from God for sensitization and prayers on Christian marriages and directed all the branches to follow suit. Every third Sunday is Marriage talk and the youths also listen to it in their Church.
The day I heard a woman on the pulpit answer a question on foreplay without inhibition I couldn’t believe my ears. That was unprecedented lol. I told my colleague who attends my Church what my ears heard and he didn’t believe me. . That’s how conservative my Church is. I think the time for conservativeness has passed sha.
There’s the need for Churches as a whole to step up.
Some of the worldly counselors may go about it in a vulgar manner and without decorum.
The marriage talks in my Church have been amazing in their candidness and I must confess to having learnt a lot. There’s plenty of other stuff that comes up apart from sex but for now I just want to ask if your Church talks about sex.
When and where? In open Church or special programs? What’s the reception like? Does anyone complain? Do you think the Church in general is helping the cause of Christians and sex after marriage and during marriage.