It goes without saying that people are falling in love with people they met on social media. Let me put it simply, social media is the new Cupid. Lol. Even if the initial meeting isn’t via social media, social media can facilitate the romance aspect. Have you forgotten about Banky W and Adesua so quickly. Lol? Banky W slid into her Instagram. Same with Ayo of 1plustheone.com and Mairo Ese.
The interesting thing is that some people still have a bias against what they term “Facebook love”. Somehow I have discovered that there’s still this teeny weeny discrimination when people say they met on social media.
It’s funny to me because social media has come a long way from what it used to be. It has changed from being something we joined reluctantly in those days to being a very viable way to connect, say, sell and promote stuff. It’s an easy way to reach a worldwide audience within minutes. Besides, social media isn’t a Facebook thing again. We have embraced other apps that help us to connect and relate with our friends and family and meet new ones.
Almost everyone has a social media account or the other. Even my parents are on Facebook while a lot of us are on tons of other apps. Therefore the more people on social media, the more the probability that you meet people more than in the olden days.
Some of our friends and parents would probably prefer to hear that you met your fiance/fiancee in the Church or at work, even in the Bus. Anywhere but social media. But if you ask me, the people on Facebook and social media are still the same people that go to church, malls, that you find at Work etc. There are still good people on social media. Everyone on social media aren’t necessarily broke, liars, fraudsters or heartbreakers.
Interestingly this bias isn’t only from those the older folks, it’s also found in people of our generation. You find that those who do meet on social media and get married rarely fess up to their original meeting point. They have to invent some acceptable story. A lot of them don’t want to be mocked for finding husband or wife on Twitter or Instagram. Somehow the Instagram slay queens and lecherous men on Facebook have managed to give a wrong impression to a lot of people.
However this is the 21st century. And things are changing. Avenues for meeting new people are changing. I have friends from blogs who I have never met. Does our friendship become any less valid because we didn’t meet physically. Lots of bloggers have gone on to meet and become good friends.
Love is now found in the oddest of places and even if not odd, at least via non traditional channels. Time was when you could predict how you would meet your significant other and some Christians feel the traditional “meet in church” or have a dream is the most appropriate way to meet your other half. But if you ask me, this hasn’t stopped problems in their marriages.
Now, this is not to say social media dating isn’t without its own issues especially in the Christian context but I think that having a godly foundation, with a believer, praying about them, asking God for his will, seeking counsel from your leaders and pastors, being careful of Red herrings, being watchful, making sure of compatibility are what counts more.
Of course there’s something to be said for meeting traditionally but don’t be too quick to say “it’s not God’s will” because you didn’t meet inside the Church.
The general spiritual and Common sense rules apply regardless of where you met. I.e Do they love God, Are they genuinely born again?Don’t be yoked with an unbeliever, no premarital sex etc. This are valid premises to any godly relationship regardless of how you met.
Even if we don’t want to be spiritual about it, there are still some common sense rules. You don’t meet someone on social media and get to know them on social media, you don’t conduct a relationship in the air. It’s easy to get tricked and lied to when you only talk on phone. If you meet a guy for the first time and he asks for sex or for you to visit him in his house, whether you met on Facebook or at a party he has no good intentions. He asks you for nudes, he doesn’t have good intentions, if he doesn’t pick his calls, visit you or show seriousness then he’s not serious. We still have to use our brains and not blame Facebook for everything.
And don’t let me get started on catfishing. You could be talking to an old man in Cambodia and think you are talking to a beautiful young lady. That’s the disadvantage of social media dating. The tendency to lie and to deceive and even harm is always there. Which is why I get the bias against social media relationships. There’s something to be said about meeting someone live and gauging if they like you or not.
As for me, I am hardly a social media person. I just find it hard for some reason.
So let’s talk Guys! What’s your take on meeting and dating people via social media especially in the Christian context?
Is it acceptable or a total No? Would you tell people if you eventually married someone you met through social media?
Do you have friends you met through social media?
How close are you to them? Is there any difference between how you feel about them and the real life ones?
Let’s talk. You know I love gist.
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