Why you need Christian friends

Christian friends

Two days ago, I talked to my friend about something bothering me and after we spoke I felt better almost immediately.

He was able to decipher what the devil was trying to achieve and was able to encourage and bolster my faith.  He was able to do this because he was a Christian.

It got me thinking about how awesome it is to have that person or persons who shares our faith and understand spiritual predicaments . One way blogging has blessed me is to give me those kind of friends. Some of them, I have never met but they are on my email, Whatsapp and I can talk to them about some stuff that my other friends wouldn’t understand.

See! whether we like it or not, there are some stuff that our “go to church” or unbelieving friends can never get. They love us and will try but they cannot just understand. Imagine if I had a bad dream or feel discouraged, they would only try to make me feel better. They wouldn’t pray with me or quote scriptures.

Now when I say Christian friends I mean friends who are sold out onto Christ. There’s no point surrounding yourself with mere church goers or so called Christians who lie, cheat, gossip and dabble in sin. You are better off friendless rather than having those. In the same vein, I am not talking about sanctimonious do gooders who think they are perfect and will gossip about you under the pretense of praying for you.

7 reasons why you need a Christian friend. 

1) They give you godly counsel

A Christian friend gives you advice based on the leading of the Holy Spirit and from a godly perspective. They understand your spiritual dilemmas, get the perspective from which you are speaking and guide you or advise you accordingly. And whatever they say just makes absolute sense because they won’t give you the worldly or popular advice.

2) They pray with you and for you.

They are the ones you can call in the middle of the night or send an email to when they are thousands of miles away to pray with you. They are the ones you tell about spiritual issues that your normal friend wouldn’t get. They are the ones you trust with that deep prayer point to intercede on your behalf.

Christian friends

3) You learn from each other

The Holy Spirit can minister to you through your godly friend. You get to learn from each other, share Bible verses, get clarification, and discuss those dreams you have when you sleep and you don’t understand.  The Bible says iron sharpens iron. We need to sharpen one another. One person cannot know it all and It’s a good idea not to depend solely on your own understanding.

4) Tbey relate and understand. 

Sometimes you just need someone that understands and can emphatise with what you are going through or struggling with spiritually. For instance your Christian friend will understand your struggles while abstaining from premarital sex  and won’t question your sanity when you say ” God said”.

5) Accountability

Christian friends are able to hold us accountable .They can help us when we are struggling with or trying to do stuff and need somebody to be accountable to. They understand your struggle and are commited to keeping you on track if you ask them.

6) You just get that full joy that comes with having friends who love Jesus.

My people!It’s an amazing feeling to know there’s someone who cares for you and will take in your burden if possible. You just feel less alone.

Now, I may sound like I have tons of them, but it’s just few of them that I have but those few, my gosh! They are amazing. I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

7) You can share with and talk to them about godly stuff.

Christian friends

You get to talk, gist, share your dreams,talk about faith, pastors, Church, Christian struggles and so on. You share music and books and argue about stuff. They are the ones who tell you about Nathaniel Bassey, Tim Godfrey or Travis Green’s new album. Sometimes you agree to disagree and it’s still fun. I bonded with another blogger in April and it was wonderful just chatting and comparing experiences we have had in this Christian journey, discussing dreams, the future, working for God, church stuff, the challenges we face in our daily lives etc.

You have the duty to screen your friends carefully but I tell you, true Christian friends are awesome when you can find them. Sometimes you find Christian friends in godly forums, Church, Christian blogs, fellowships, school, work etc. More importantly we can pray and ask God to send us true friends after his own heart.

To fully enjoy the benefits I have stated above you yourself have to be a Christian so that it isn’t one-sided. Like attracts like, light attracts light. Let the light of God shine in you.  You have to work towards embodying Christ so that your friends can also benefit from you and trust you enough to confide in you.

P. S This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t have normal friends oh. I have a ton of great friends and I may one day  share the benefits of having amazing friends but today I feel like every Christian, especially young people in this morally declining period need that love, acceptance and encouragement that a true Christian friend brings. 

So let’s talk. Do you agree?

Do you have Christian friends? Why or why not?

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    May 24, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    I only have one friend that fits this profile, others are church goers who don’t think it’s so bad to dance to ‘tekno’ as long as you go to church on Sunday. not so good at making friends but I’m trying to pray about.

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      May 24, 2017 at 5:10 pm

      Lol at tekno.
      My friends don’t fit all the profiles too but they do pretty well. For me the major thing is that they have spiritual understanding.
      Prayer is a good way to start. I am certain God will lead good ones to you if you ask him.

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    May 24, 2017 at 4:10 pm

    Awww I can relate to this so much! For me, I have many Christian friends but only 1 who I can confide in with anything. I appreciate their presence in my life so so much! It’s so so important to have Christian friends. Thanks for sharing ?

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      May 26, 2017 at 1:00 am

      Thanks Joan. It really is important to have them.
      Yeah! I feel you.I am not a secret sharer by nature. I like keeping my feelings close to my chest but sometimes it’s necessary to confide in those we feel we can trust. Which is why it’s important that they can guide us and advise us scripturally.

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    May 26, 2017 at 3:10 pm

    Every reason resounded with me.
    I am the kind of person who people think has got a lot of friends but who in reality has very few friends.
    I have a couple of good Christian friends and I’m forever grateful for them.
    In recent times however my prayer has been to be a better Christian friend myself.

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      May 27, 2017 at 11:08 am

      I am cool with a lot of people but I have few friends in reality. As i have grown older I have pruned my immediate circle to very few. This includes both Christian and normal friends.
      Hmm! That’s another angle to look at it from. Being the kind of friend we would love to have.

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