How to have a closer relationship with God

Closer relationship with God

A lot of us desire a closer relationship with God, we look at people who say “God says” or ” God said” with amazement and wish that was us. I have good news for you ?, it’s totally possible to have that desired close, intimate relationship with our creator.

Here are ten ways to have a closer relationship with God,  improve our relationship with him, hear from him and talk to him. 

1) Consecration, Holiness and obedience.

I no fit lie to una, to know God we have to avoid sin and obey his commandments . Did I say avoid? I meant “Run” . Experience has taught me that his commandments are all to our benefit. It just seems hard because of flesh. Purge yourself of filth, maximize the cleansing power in the Blood of Jesus. Avoid anything that is against the commandments of God. The more you purge yourself spiritually, the more the Holy Spirit fills you. 

2) Be a friend of God.

Be trustworthy, be committed, love God,worship him, praise him, talk to him and he will show you the past, future and present. Let fasting and prayer be a part of you, be merciful, give to the poor, needy and to the House of God . Be familiar enough with the voice of God that you can recognize his voice anywhere anytime. This is because Satan also speaks and tries to manipulate visions and dreams.

3) Read your Bible.

Closer relationship with God

Buy a Bible if you don’t have one . Don’t be intimidated, take it slowly and go through it.  Read it, study it, ponder on it, confess it, and live a prayerful life. Pray and ask for the gift of revelation. The Bible is indispensable to anyone who wants to know God better. It is only when you read the Bible that you can know God enough. That is when you can test all voices with the Scriptures. If you are finding Bible reading hard then read my Tips for better Bible reading.

4) Meditate.

Believe me, God moves during the times we are still and quiet in our spirit. Some of us aren’t hearing God because our lives are too busy. So so talk-talk, gossip, back bite, watch movies, browsing, social media and telephone calls. How do you now expect to hear from God nah?

Take some time out, every day. It could be as little or as much as you need. Have quiet time with God, be still, think on deep things, ask questions, ruminate in your heart and he will tell you things.

6) Be born again if you aren’t already.

Jesus Christ is the way and you cannot excuse Jesus from God. Don’t be deceived by heresies, half information, and demonic prophecies that devil gives through his agents. God is the owner and revealer of secrets, but you have to be his child and accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour to have access to secrets of the most high.

7) The Holy Spirit.

Ask for the Holy Spirit, and develop a relationship with him. You cannot have a closer relationship with God without the Holy Spirit. He is the one that whispers things, that advises , that comforts, that admonishes, that tells secrets. The Holy Spirit is a revealer of secrets. Who do you think revealed  the secret of the Ananias and Saphira to Peter? Holy Spirit is the one who will reveal secrets, explain mysteries, interpret scriptures to you .

8) Avoid sexual immorality.

Closer relationship with God

God frowns on sex before marriage. He hates defilement. If you claim that your body is the temple of God, then you should know better than to engage in adultery, fornication, masturbation and co. If you have any idea of the spiritual transaction that take place with each sexual transaction, you will keep your legs closed before marriage. God ordained sex within the confines of marriage. I am not saying it’s easy oh, trust me it isn’t, but start from determining to stop. Look at the big picture. Let go of that partner that tempts you. Take a stand, throw that porn stash away.

9) Prayer

Prayer is our special one on one time with God. You cannot have that intimate relationship with God without prayer. God wants to hear from you. He must surely answer you after you have said your own part. You have to say something. Read My tips on prayer here. Ask God to speak to you.

10) Be committed, disciplined, and determined to have a closer relationship with God.

It is laziness to always depend on another person to tell you what God is saying. God wants to tell you stuff. He really really wants to share secrets with you. Position yourself to hear him.

There’s no short cut to knowing God better. It involves sacrifice and discipline. Some behaviors, thoughts, mindset, habits have to go. Anybody who tells you the Christian walk doesn’t involve any of this is lying. Some of those prophets who we love to run to tell us what God is saying as an easy cop out to avoid knowing God ourselves and leaving sin aren’t even using the Holy Spirit. Some of the stuff they say doesn’t even come to pass, so why don’t you step up.

This is the third in this series and one song I will always sing to us is to “know God better, know God better.” If you missed the first two, please read You are a prophet and Seven ways God speaks to us.

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    March 22, 2017 at 9:20 am

    In a world where technology has taken the order of the day, the media has become the idol of so many and God has become a supernatural being some hardly remember exists, this message came in at the nick of time. Permission to share this pls. Thank you.

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      March 22, 2017 at 9:23 am

      I agree with you, God has become this far away abstract supernatural being to many when he should as close to us as our heart. I am really worried that a lot of us aren’t maximizing the benefits to being close to God as much as we should which is why I try to emphasize the importance of having that great and close relationship with God often.
      A lot is problems and issues will be averted if we can get that basic foundation of knowing and loving God right.
      Thank you so much Tunji. Pls feel free to share this or any other post.

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    March 23, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    Bisi Bisi! This is yet another lovely and time article. Hahah at “I no fit lie”. I’ve been thinking about this topic lately because I’m attending an 8 week Sunday school session where we are learning how to be a living sacrifice. And your first point is pretty much the summary of the entire class. I struggle with finding time to meditate, even when I try to be still, the kind waka my mind go dey waka ehn. It’s then I’ll remember to start planning what food items I need to buy or how I should wash my pillowcase later, completely frivolous thoughts like that will be coming to mind smh. I’ll keep working on this sha. Yes you’re right about laziness and how it can derail us from having a meaningful relationship with our Heavenly Father. His word literally tells us that whenever we call upon him, He will hear us. God is so easy to access but it’s still hard for some of us to comfortably get into a relationship with him. That’s why articles like this are important for the guidance they provide.

    P.S: In your opinion Bisi, what does being born again entail?

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      March 25, 2017 at 9:55 am

      Thanks E. Some people try to minimise or ignore that sacrificial part of Christianity. I won’t do that.
      Yeah! Don’t beat yourself up. It happens to me sometimes especially if I go to Church after work or during a boring service. Just try to focus and remind yourself that concentration is needed else your presence there isn’t useful.
      I know how hard having that relationship with God can be even though it should be easy in reality. A lot of things come into play but the bottom line is God is ever ready, we are the ones who need to work on our side of the divide.
      Thanks dear.
      Being born again entails accepting Jesus as your Lord and saviour, believing he died for our sins, being washed by the blood of Jesus Christ, becoming an entirely new creature, old things passing away. It involves repentance, renunciation of past life and conscious acceptance.
      It’s a conscious moment of you saying Jesus, I want you, I need you, I believe in you. It’s not baptism or being born in a Christian home. No one can do that for you. It’s a personal decision and encounter. And you know when you do it.
      In my former church I used to get the urge to stand up for each altar call because I wasn’t sure if I was born again, I wasn’t sure what it meant too. My life wasn’t born again anyway hence the dilemma. I knew Jesus, and believe he died for my sins but I later had that encounter. Things soon changed. and here we are.

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        March 28, 2017 at 4:59 am

        Well said, Bisi! Being in a Christian home does not guarantee being born again. It has to be a personal decision and encounter. When you are born again, you just know that you are different – a new creation. It’s the most beautiful experience.

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          March 28, 2017 at 7:36 pm

          Thanks dear. I feel like over familiarity with Christianity makes some people mistake the idea of what being born again means. Some pastors kids hear and are taught about Jesus, but don’t know him personally.
          ? You get the feeling. It’s the most beautiful experience. I can’t really describe it but there’s this confidence, this knowledge, realisation and oneness with the Holy Spirit that comes with it.

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    March 30, 2017 at 6:59 pm

    Thank you very much Bisi and Precious for that answer. I asked the question because I too, just like the old you, used to feel the need to go forward for the altar call every time because I was unsure of if I was truly born again. Your answers have made things clearer for me. I have had that experience and now I know what that experience means to me. Me and Jesus are in this life together, forever!

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      April 3, 2017 at 11:35 am

      You are welcome.
      Amen and Amen. Preach it Sis.

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    April 14, 2017 at 8:55 pm

    I think I should add that the company one keeps can help improve or destroy the relationship with God. I used to roll with some people I thought would help me grow spiritually but I ended up having to deal with condemnation issues. Correcting with love was not an option and anyone who didn’t behave sanctimonious was not going to make heaven. Thank God I know what I know now.
    In other happenings please, must one always follow the adoration, confession, thanksgiving, supplication pattern in prayer?

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      April 15, 2017 at 12:21 am

      That’s another good point. The company we keep can either take us down a slippery slope or help us have a better relationship with God.

      Lol. Imagine that! I really don’t like sanctimonious holier than thou people. Ironically, people looking at you would have thought you were in good spiritual company not knowing your friends were even dampening it.
      Yeah! Thank God you know what you know now. Nobody has the right to judge us or make us feel less, or unworthy.

      No dear. Prayer is personal, and while that may be a guideline, it’s up to you to go with the flow. There are times the Holy Spirit directs you to just praise worship, it could be praise and intercession or solely confession and supplication. All of the above are necessary in our prayer lives, but even if it’s one of them, our prayer still gets answered OK.
      Don’t allow anyone tell you how to talk to your father. He is your father too jare. Just talk to him.

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