7 Tips on how to know and choose the right Church

Choosing the right church

As Christians, it’s important that we do not forsake the company of other believers.  The Church we attend can break or make our Christian walk hence its very important that we know and choose the right Church.

I have had cause to look for a new Church. My former Church was very hip and trendy, but somehow I never really connected. I was there but not born again. I didn’t hear the word I needed to hear.
This was a Church everyone in my family and almost everyone in my mother’s family attended (minus my dad).

Now, let me reiterate that the Church is the Universal body of Christ, meaning that all believers are one Church. However, these believers have to meet, pray, worship together somewhere. Which brings us to the title of this post.

7 Tips on how to know and choose the right Church

1) A  Church that teaches the Word of God.

You can know a good Church by what is taught. A good Church should expound and explain the Bible and teach spiritual principles. You have to be taught and to learn something. Your spirit man has to be stirred up.

2) A Church interested in the welfare of its members.

By welfare, I mean spiritual and physical welfare. Your Church should care for you and even if it’s a big Gathering, there should be one or two people who will notice if you are absent and call to ask of you, ask about your spiritual growth and so on.

3) A Church where you grow spiritually.

A good Church ought to be invested in your spiritual growth. This should reflect in the preaching, programs and events organized by the Church. Your Church should emphasize personal Christian walk. This involves Bible study, fasting and prayer, holiness .

I have realized that some churches don’t want their members to grow so that the pastors can feed them trash, prey on the ignorance of the members, and be the “god” of their members. If you call a pastor in my Church at 2am that you dreamt a bad dream or someone just tried to press you down during sleep, he will ask you ” Sister, what did you now do after it happened”. They try to make you spiritually independent so that when the pastor isn’t there with you, you know the steps and prayers to pray.

4) A Church that preaches holiness.

In my opinion, focus on Holiness is helps to know and choose the right Church . You have to ask yourself and check yourself out, what is the core message of this Church? What is the their take on premarital sex and adultery, lying and immorality ?

5) A Church that teaches the truth.

Knowing and choosing a new church

You will be amazed ( or not) to know that some pastors and elders know the truth but they keep it from their members. In some cases, the unsuspecting members are taught half truths and heresies. In some instances sin is encouraged on the premise of abounding grace. Masturbation is said not to be a sin, heaven is emphasized while hell and judgement are stylishly avoided.

6) The Holy Spirit.

In my opinion oh, the Holy Spirit helps in choosing the right church. The Spirit bears witness when you are in a good Church. You need to feel the presence of God in that Church.

God can also help you choose a new one. Sometimes, you enter a new Church and the Holy Spirit tells you NO!

God told me he was taking me to a new Church. And that was what he did. I have heard cases where people dream of a Church and the Holy Spirit tells them to go there.

7) A Church where you connect .

As I said earlier, I used to attend a Church where I didn’t connect, I was there but I was sinning. No guilt, no condemnation. I didn’t feel the need to read Bible or grow. I used to carry novel to read during service. Lol. That is, when I even attended.

Choosing the right church

I also didn’t get the urge to attend. I had to be forced. And one day I prayed, and God told me some things ” Change your Church” ” You need to get to know me better” . It was obvious that God knew that my Church was affecting my spiritual growth, and that I had to leave that Church if I was to walk the Christian walk.

My people , I changed Church, and I couldn’t believe myself, I couldn’t believe my life. People who knew me probably couldn’t believe it either.  That first year, I was like a thirsty person, drinking from fountain of knowledge. I attended services like crazy. Till date, I find it hard to believe that I am the same person.

That is the essence of this post. Church doesn’t have to be boring, it doesn’t have to be a chore. The key is to find the right one. Church is not where you do follow- follow. That your friend finds that Church exciting is not a good enough reason to follow him or her. Your needs, wants , requirements are different.

I needed somewhere where I could learn about spiritual mysteries, I needed a Church that taught spiritual warfare, because bad dreams and spiritual attacks wanted to kill my enemy. I didn’t know anything, I couldn’t interpret dreams correctly. All this and more, I got in my Church.

As awesome as my Church is, not everyone I invite feel the same way. The simple fact is it isn’t THEIR Church. As disconnected as I was in my old Church, I have friends going there and they are growing. It suits their requirement. Even when they come to mine, their hearts and souls are still in that Church. You see?

I never knew I had a calling and a Ministry until I changed Churches. Please do not underestimate what the right Church can do in your life and in your Christian walk.

Has this post helped you? Please still list or tell us the things you look out for in a Church in the Comment section.  I am sure there are still many more left.

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6 Comments

  • Reply
    Immanuel
    February 20, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    Just left here for some hours and I have missed 3posts already! Oops.

    Poignant advice you gave and couldn’t agree with the last point about the connection aspect. Another pointni would lovento add is that the church should be such that you can find a place to serve God without drama

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      Bisola
      February 21, 2017 at 3:11 pm

      Lol. At least you have caught up with the new ones.
      Thank you. I appreciate your comments. Yes oh. So I am not the only one who hates drama in the House of God? The kind of envy, jealous, backbiting drama that will make you lose focus and forget you are in Church.
      I think those people are everywhere though but in different quantities so we also have to be careful to focus on God.

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    FTJ
    March 11, 2017 at 9:50 am

    The truth is that there is drama in EVERY church. How it is handled says a lot about the leadership. Church ‘business’ is not easy to handle. It’s one of the ways one can tell how Spirit-filled the pastors are.
    All that you mentioned are correct jare. Last last, we just need to observe and be guided by the Holy Spirit.
    Well done sister Bisi

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      Bisola
      March 12, 2017 at 6:46 am

      Yeah! True. Even Mfm has drama. I have discovered that wherever people gather together, something must happen because of our nature.
      I agree about leadership. My former pastor was great in that regard. He managed to use respect to finish bus critics and wisdom to handle the “dem said” “dem said ” crew.
      My dear, to be at the helm of a church no easy. I used to think it was in but managing people who will still talk about you, criticises you, your wife, kids, administration, sermon no be easy something oh.
      The Holy Spirit na him sure pass.
      Thank you FTJ.

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    Annika Larson
    March 21, 2017 at 9:15 pm

    My husband and I are looking for a church to raise our children in. It’s important to us that they have a spiritual background and an understanding of God. I like how you mentioned the importance of finding a church where you connect and feel comfortable. Thanks for sharing!

    • Reply
      Bisola
      March 23, 2017 at 10:33 am

      Hi Anika, thank you for your comment. I am really glad that you recognize the importance of bringing up your Children to have an understanding of God. Nothing beats knowing God from a young age, I wish I had had that when growing up.
      Sure! That connection and comfort is important. You can’t work with reviews of others but by your own feelings. Do you feel at ease, is your spirit man comfortable? Are you eager for Church Services? Do you feel the Holy Spirit move? Is there a growth in your spiritual life etc are valid ways to ask personalized questions and rate how you feel.

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