So said my friend after I sort of teased him that he didn’t attend Church the Sunday preceding our conversation. I have forgotten how we found ourselves on the topic of holiness but he must have said something in the vein of ” he doesn’t miss Sunday Services ” or ” he was in Church that Sunday” or something. And I countered that with something like ” You! You didn’t go to Church jo “.
Now before you think I am a weirdo, lol, we attend the same Church oh although different branches and I know he sometimes travels during weekends to see his wife. I guess I just assumed that he didn’t go to Church that Sunday. Don’t ask me why I assumed. My friend is a very laid back guy. And I was just teasing anyway, not that I knew for sure. I just assumed. And I assumed wrong.
He took it seriously though. And his next words were very surprising. “You are not Holier than me”. It was such a funny statement coming from him that I burst into laughter. And I think he laughed too. I then informed him that I was going to write a post on it. Lol.
But I also got an underlying seriousness to his statement and I took the time to reassure him that my intention wasn’t to sound smug or holy at all.
You see! He actually did go to Church that Sunday . He explained that he always tried to attend Sunday Services regardless of what State he was in. So that I didn’t see him in Church didn’t mean he wasn’t in another Church. And come to think of it going to Church doesn’t exactly guarantee Holiness. So even if he didn’t go to Church, it still didn’t affect his holy status. Lol.
His words got me thinking though on presumptions, and condescending and judgemental tones that some of us use consciously or unconsciously. One thing I have discovered when it comes to evangelizing or teaching is that you have to be careful not to sound judgemental . A person who feels judged isn’t going to listen to anything you say.
How much more souls would some of us win if we didn’t have prejudice in our hearts and mind?
One lesson God has been drumming into my ears is not to judge. I try not to judge on other religions, or doctrine. I may not agree with them but I try to maintain my poker face and treat them as fairly as I would treat a Christian sister or brother. It’s not always easy but anytime I want to discriminate against a Muslim I am reminded of the fact that my father is one, I grew up one, and have tons of Muslim relatives. This simply means that ” I am” by the grace of God. What if I never met Christ? This singular thought cautions me and helps me rein any prejudice I have.
I am reminded of the many times in the University that some girls have felt they were better than me because they went to Church and I didn’t bother, or they looked more pious than I did, and they judged me and gossiped about me. None of them had any inkling of the radical change my life would encounter in a few years after graduation. To be honest, I didn’t too.
Heres the thing- We have to watch out for the prejudice in our minds. Isn’t it ironical that churches with different doctrines judge each other when we are supposed to be one. White garment Churches are this, Deeper Life Church member dress like that, Catholic people do this, Synagogue is this, Mfm pray that way, The Lord’s chosen people act this way, COZA people do this and Redeemed is that.
Some of us may claim innocence but let’s be truthful. What comes to your mind when that wild looking girl who dresses half naked, smokes and drinks passes by you? Judgement or love and the need to pray for her? Do you shift unconsciously in your seat and warn your younger ones never to get close to her?
What crosses your mind when that staunch looking Mfm or Deeper life member passes by you. Do you ridicule their dressing , lack of makeup, natural hair and think ” Pretender”. Lol.
Isn’t it just funny to you? Even in our own Churches we don’t always escape judgement. Human one that is. I attend a conservative Church and you will be surprised that even in the Church people are also judging your hair, your clothes, length of your sleeves and gowns, church attendance, and you just wonder where it ends.
The question is how does this affect us? Who made us judges over Christians? I know that some of these prejudice are deeply ingrained. But it’s time we start to let them go. If we feel so deeply about someone being on the wrong path, how about praying for them instead of pursing our lips in a sanctimonious manner and mentally calculating who is going to heaven and who is going to hell?
Do you know that guy smoking and drinking can become a firebrand pastor when God arrests him? Do you know that promiscuous girl who slept with tons of men and aborted severally can become an evangelist and teacher with a heavy dose of God’s anointing to boot. God can change anybody.
God does not judge. So who are we to help him out with our thoughts or our attitude? Let’s take a cue from Jesus shall we. So many of us would have scared off the Samaritan woman at the well with our attitude once we discovered that she was had had five husbands.
That’s just my perspective anyway. What do you guys think? Let us know please.